Letting Everything In

There is a certain comfort in letting certain things in and excluding others from our view.  The same goes with people.  There's people who have God, and people who don't.  People who know what's up, and people who are idiots.  People who pay attention when they drive, and people who should never be let out on the road.  People who have truth, and people who have no grasp of it whatsoever.

This method of looking at others has it's comforts, has it's securities.  It is a means by which we can understand the world by translating it into what is approved and what is not.  It certainly makes life much more simple.  Here's what's on my list of approved things, ideas, and people, and I reject what's not on this list.

We all do this, to a certain extent.  And it makes sense.  We *are* trying to constantly simplify our experience to make it easier to handle.

But it's interesting what happens when you stop putting people and ideas in categories.  You start looking closer, you start seeing more.  Because you've stopped filtering things out.  The priest at the church Ben and I go to was leading us through a meditation, and she said for us to stop filtering, and to let everything in.  Do not exclude any sounds, feelings, thoughts…just let it all flow and observe it.  Then, you start to see deeper.

The same is true for people and ideas, I think.  When you stop trying to declare something as either bad or good and just witness it, you see deeper.  And seeing this way allows you to see the truth hidden in everything, because it frees you from your misconceptions and even your opinions.  It humbles you because you *have* to let go of the things that make you comfortable in order to let everything in, and in doing so, brings you closer to truth.

Compassion and love break down barriers.  They stop us from doing this categorization and from simplifying the world.  Love asks us to look at the whole, to see each person, each idea, each moment as valuable in some way.  There is no in group or out group.  There is only truth, and what it is buried underneath.

And when you see things this way, you approach conversations, people, ideas with an entirely different perspective.  You start to understand the subtle language of the heart, and how it is speaking even through people's so called intellectual ideas.  You start to see how someone's pure intuition or pure desires were led astray.  And instead of feeling contempt for their ignorance, you can feel nothing but compassion and love.  You see their soul buried under so much weight, and you long to free them. 

You are no longer distracted by the wrongness of what people say.  It seems petty to argue about it, almost tragic.  And it gives you patience and strength.  When you talk with someone it's more like a jazz improvisation…each of you contributing ideas and playing off one another to build something interesting that may open up both of your understandings.  You don't feel attached to (or the need to reject) any one concept or dogma because you sense the truth in all of them.  This gives you a freedom, a spontaneity, a creativity that you never had before.

And it is all in ceasing to seek comfort, and treating people and even their ideas and their words with compassion and love.  It's not always about simplification; often, it's about inclusion and integration.

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  1. The way I'm interpreting what you're saying is that it's coming from the soul, not the ego…or listening with the soul, not the ego.

  2. Yep, that would be a good way to interpret it.

  3. This method of looking at others has it's comforts, has it's
    securities. It is a means by which we can understand the world by
    translating it into what is approved and what is not. It certainly
    makes life much more simple.When I was made aware of how obviously we work this way, I was at first appalled, but then a bit relieved. I realized that it was ok to categorize – in some ways, our brains need it. [See hooded stranger carrying knife in dark running down street towards me. Categorization would tell me to run. Probably a good idea.] But like you said, we do miss out when we do that. And then we do shift gears, well, for me, I start to see individuals, real people, not categories. That can be hard, I know. But I also have to (continually) ask myself really, why would I want it any other way?

  4. Definitely. We want to simplify it because it's so crazy complex that we *have* to in order to make sense of it, but at the same time the fact that it is so complex is exactly what makes it so beautiful. :)We need both, but our world has become experts in simplification, analysis, and categorization, in every arena of life…and our skills at integration, synthesis, and inclusion have atrophied almost out of existence. One is more practical, one is more meaningful.

  5. Beautiiful Words!

    author Neale Donald Walsch recently wrote:

    “for pure love is
    the rejection of nothing.”

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